A Repeated Cycle of Self-Sabotage.
Have you ever wanted something so badly, for so long, trying so hard to get it, but failing miserably?Have you ever set goals and objectives that you didn’t reach? Or have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns of behavior over and over again and therefore keep getting the same pitiful results? All of us at one point or another go through these phases. In fact, many of us go through our standard self-sabotage cycles like clockwork each day, and as a result, we rarely live up to our full potential. We regret the things we didn’t do, yet wonder why we keep getting stuck indulging in these limiting patterns of behavior.
WHAT EXACTLY IS SELF SABOTAGE
Self-sabotage is any behavior, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from getting what you consciously want. Moreover, it’s the conflict that exists between conscious desires and unconscious wants that manifest in self-sabotage patterns. It not only prevents you from reaching your goals but also plays the part of a safety mechanism that protects you against disappointment . What this essentially means is that your brain is protecting you from getting hurt by doing what it thinks is best — which is to keep you feeling comfortable
REASONS FOR SELF SABOTAGE
Self-sabotage tends to linger in our lives because of a lack of self-esteem , self-worth , self-confidence, andself-belief . Likewise, we suffer from self-sabotage patterns because we are unable to manage our emotions effectively. We tend to react to events, circumstances and people in ways that hinder our progress and prevent us from reaching our goals and objectives.
Self-sabotage is also used as a method for coping with difficult situations or high expectations (of ourselves or others) that we unconsciously feel we are not capable of reaching. No matter what our reasons for self-sabotage, it is clear that if we don’t do something about it, that we will continue to live a life full of regrets and unfulfilled expectations.
TYPES OF SELF SABOTAGE
Self-sabotage can come in many forms and often manifests in our lives in various ways. Here is a list of methods we often use to sabotage our own path to success:
Fear of failure .
Fear of taking risks .
Fear of making mistakes .
Inability to listen to instructions carefully.
Inability to plan ahead .
Inability to SAY NO to others.
Inability to consider the consequences of our actions.
Inability to think carefully before making decisions .
Inability to think critically or practically.
Inability to think flexibly about problems.
Inability to admit mistakes or errors.
Worrying constantly .
Having unrealistic expectations .
Critically judging ourselves or others.
Constantly comparing yourself to others.
Always complaining about people, life, circumstances or perceived bad luck .
The habit of procrastination .
The habit of perfectionism .
Accepting people’s advice without question.
Limiting beliefs, emotions and attitudes .
Unhelpful thoughts focused on what’s not working or on wishful daydreams.
When it comes to our limiting thoughts, we must pay close attention to the excuses we tend to make that prevent us from moving forward. Here are some examples:
This won’t work…
I can’t do this…
I’m too busy right now…
I’m just not ready yet….....
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